{"id":11370,"date":"2023-10-13T12:00:00","date_gmt":"2023-10-13T10:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/holistic.news\/en\/?p=11370"},"modified":"2023-10-12T11:11:00","modified_gmt":"2023-10-12T09:11:00","slug":"children-in-limbo-the-struggle-for-belonging-and-self-acceptance","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/holistic.news\/en\/children-in-limbo-the-struggle-for-belonging-and-self-acceptance\/","title":{"rendered":"Children in Limbo: The Struggle for Belonging and Self-Acceptance"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Effectively addressing these challenges, which include mitigating the impact of parents\u2019 deficiencies in providing essential support to their children, necessitates the implementation of inclusive education. This approach demands organized efforts and supportive measures for student development to guarantee equal educational opportunities for all. A fundamental requirement for enabling the participation of all students in school life is to ensure comprehensive accessibility. This encompasses students with disabilities as well as those without proper medical documentation and assessments. It also includes individuals who may encounter difficulties due to specific physical or psychological conditions, differing cultural or social backgrounds, or experiences associated with migration.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Polish education system urgently needs specific modifications to ensure it provides an inclusive educational model for all students. There is a critical need for specialists in schools who have the capacity and availability for direct interaction with each student requiring personalized support. This is a crucial measure to combat the escalating trend of suicides among children and adolescents, as direct interaction with a child is often the most potent deterrent against thoughts of self-harm.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Experience of Feeling Different<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Feeling different due to various special needs is a common experience among children and adolescents. Micha\u0142 Cichy, a journalist with \u201cGazeta Wyborcza,\u201d shared a poignant recollection of his childhood in a series of articles titled \u201cLive Better\u201d:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\u201cAt the age of five, I had recurring nightmares: each side of my bed harbored a different monster. At the head of the bed, a gigantic dog devoured me alive. On the wall side, a corrugated vacuum cleaner hose engulfed me. On the room side, a lamp suspended from the ceiling lowered cords that lifted me up to the ceiling and deposited me on a scalding radiator high above the floor, from which I couldn’t jump down. However, the most terrifying side was the foot of the bed. A small, furry creature, which I referred to as a kingfisher, emerged from behind the curtain, and I knew it was followed by a massive monster. I never actually saw it, but the mere anticipation of its approach was enough to jolt me awake.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

This statement can be seen as a special metaphor for the experiences of students who come to school with a myriad of different experiences in interacting with the world. Some may have visual impairments, others may have hearing difficulties or be hypersensitive to sounds and the presence of others, and furthermore, others may misinterpret the gestures and words directed at them. Sometimes, children with below-average intellectual abilities enter the institution and react in extremely unusual ways: with shouting, aggression, or with excessive and uncontrolled movements.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In essence, for the average teacher, the optimal student is one who understands what is happening and acts according to accepted principles. It is assumed that if this is not the case, it is best for the student to sit to the side and not disturb others. Unfortunately, a significant portion of students not only do not want to be sidelined from what is happening in the class but also, additionally, cannot adapt to the norms that seem obvious to teachers. They are simply different and require different, specialized treatment. The reasons for their differences or special needs can vary widely; let us examine some of them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Children with a History of Migration <\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

An increasing number of children with a history of migration are enrolling in schools. The concept of the world as a global village, introduced by Canadian philosopher Marshall McLuhan, highlighted that all global inhabitants are linked by the same set of information. Nowadays, this connection may be less evident through television or computers, yet it is unmistakably apparent on our streets and in our schools with the growing presence of newcomers from different parts of the world. In addition to experiencing migration, these children often live under the shadow of trauma, violence, displacement, or war.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Children impacted by migration find themselves in an environment that is, to varying degrees, unfamiliar. Their arrival in a new living situation presents a host of novel experiences and emotions. These range from cultural shifts, such as a new language, customs, and behavioral norms, to deeply personal changes observed in physical, biological, economic, or social aspects. The breaking of social support networks, anxiety for people and sometimes animals left behind, significantly affect children\u2019s mental well-being. This is exacerbated by feelings of isolation, potential stigmatization and secondary victimization, and the absence of support from individuals previously considered dependable. The daily conduct of new peers and inappropriate adult behavior\u2014excessively protective, sympathetic, ultimately negatively distinguishing\u2014are undeniably impactful. There is also the influence of social media used by the community the new migrant student is joining, often featuring envious and disdainful prejudices that lead to condemnation and stigmatization. Additionally, the prevalent youth trend of sharing images of assault victims and violent acts, underlining a peculiar entitlement to violence or even boasting about an assault, is a noteworthy factor. Other challenges for teenagers may include their appearance, economic status, ability to engage in extracurricular activities, use of a specific language code that emphasizes shared experiences, or a distinctive way of interpreting the world, characteristic of their new environment.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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The \u201cSnowflake\u201d Generation<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

An expanding demographic of rising concern includes young individuals who, feeling marginalized, resort to suicide attempts. Schools are now populated with students who have endured the challenges of isolation due to recent pandemic restrictions. A notable portion of these young people are the younger siblings of the \u201csnowflake\u201d generation. It is important to note that \u201csnowflakes\u201d are predominantly self-centered individuals, highly susceptible to criticism and any form of failure. Owing to their \u201chelicopter\u201d parents, snowflake generation children not only exhibit significant irrationality but are also increasingly responding to a lack of anticipated opportunities with self-harm or even attempts at self-destruction. \u201cHelicopter\u201d parents are those who, being proximate to their children\u2019s academic lives, are always prepared to intervene. Consequently, their approach largely involves assuming full decision-making power and even responsibility for their children.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Numerous factors contribute to the increasing sense of exclusion within the snowflake generation. One significant factor is the mentioned parental educational incompetence that hinders children from fully participating in their own lives. Additionally, social media has become a crucial influence for many young individuals, dictating their worldview, values, and rejections. It seemingly determines one\u2019s perception, level of appreciation, and instances of deprivation of belonging to a chosen, yet unpredictable and generally merciless virtual group.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is crucial to understand that the feeling of exclusion is foundational to one\u2019s self-perception. A young person\u2019s existence hinges on the recognition and unconditional acceptance by others. Previously, concrete relationships, shared conversations, events, appearances, and reactions to others\u2019 actions directly impacted our sense of connection with others. However, in today\u2019s virtual reality, our self-image and others\u2019 perceptions of us are paramount. Consequently, any critical comment or even fabricated information can lead to a sense of exclusion from a specific community. In some cases, this can even drive children to desire self-exclusion from their own lives.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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The Desire for Death Among Children <\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

The data is alarming. In January 2023, the Polish National Police reported 856 suicide attempts that did not result in death. The majority of these attempts were made by adolescents between the ages of 13 and 18. The World Health Organization (WHO) estimates that for every documented suicide attempt, there are about 100-200 incidents that go unreported. The numbers highlight the continuation of a disturbing trend that has been increasingly evident over the past several years.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Mental crises, including those that lead to suicidal thoughts, are widespread and notably affect children and adolescents more severely. Why is this the case? Monika Kami\u0144ska from the Empowering Children Foundation notes that a significant number of children in Poland dread facing each new day, while adults often dismiss their feelings with comments like, \u201cI had real problems at your age.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lucyna Kici\u0144ska, co-author of the report \u201cSuicidal Behavior Among Children and Adolescents,\u201d emphasizes the need for increased funding for psychological and pedagogical support in schools by the Ministry of Education and Science. However, the ministry mainly suggests financing, among other things, speech therapy and group psychological and pedagogical assistance. According to the quoted suicidologist, this is not an appropriate response to a child\u2019s emotional crisis. To genuinely help students in crisis, school specialists simply need employment that enables them to conduct an adequate number of individual consultations. Direct contact and conversation with a child contemplating suicide are often highlighted as factors that ultimately dissuade them from following through with their intentions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Autonomy of School, Teachers, Parents, and Students<\/a><\/blockquote>