{"id":12141,"date":"2024-03-27T12:00:00","date_gmt":"2024-03-27T11:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/holistic.news\/en\/?p=12141"},"modified":"2024-03-19T10:13:02","modified_gmt":"2024-03-19T09:13:02","slug":"the-neurobiology-of-passion-how-the-brain-copes-with-the-power-of-love","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/holistic.news\/en\/the-neurobiology-of-passion-how-the-brain-copes-with-the-power-of-love\/","title":{"rendered":"The Neurobiology of Passion: How the Brain Copes With the Power of Love"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

For starters, research has proved there is more than one type of love in store. Psychologist Robert Sternberg lists three components of that state: passion, intimacy, and commitment. Interestingly, this theoretical classification corresponds to the brain\u2019s actual reactions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cI\u2019m Burning,\u201d or Passion<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Passion accounts for strong emotions in a relationship. It comes into play when two people fall in love, making them strive to spend every bit of time together, look each other deep in the eyes, and seek physical intimacy. Passion cannot be controlled\u2014you don\u2019t just turn it on and off as desired. The affection simply flames up at a certain point and its ultimate power makes the partners lose their objective look until they start to adore each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cI Trust You,\u201d or Intimacy<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Two people with intimate love trust each other, wish to make each other happy, and provide mutual help in need. As such, intimacy is not reserved for romantic partners only: a\u00a0parent\u2013child relationship or the bond between a\u00a0human and their pet can also include this important component. Contrary to passion, intimacy is established gradually as it requires shared experience and communication. How does it manifest itself then? One sure sign is the partners\u2019 ability to comfort each other in the most effective way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\u201cI Do,\u201d or Commitment<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Commitment is the most conscious and controllable aspect of love because it\u2019s based on a decision. \u201cI choose to build our mutual future with care and support\u201d\u2014words like these, whether thought silently or spoken out loud, epitomize the essence of a committed attitude. This component of love dies out last, and one thing that keeps it up is sacrifice for the partner. Undertaken every now and then, it has the hidden power to strengthen the bond. Interestingly, people in long-term relationships believe they make some kind of sacrifice as often as every other day.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Naturally, the three components can form various combinations. A\u00a0bond based on passion alone is called infatuation, while companionate love built on intimacy and commitment is commonly known as friendship. However, only the union of all three produces a\u00a0complete relationship, also referred to as consummate love, in which all the crucial needs are satisfied.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Maciej Kochanowski \/ Midjourney<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Mars Brain, Venus Brain<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Beside the research on love in general, science has also studied the differences between men and women when it comes to falling in love. One particularly interesting finding concerns the biochemical changes in their brains.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In both sexes, the early stages of love, which is when passion reaches its peak, are mainly conditioned by dopamine\u2014a neurotransmitter that underlies the feeling of pleasure and motivates us to take action. Once intimacy and trust set in, women show increasing levels of oxytocin. This hormone of closeness is also released during activities such as kissing and cuddling, and creates the feeling of attachment. Since high testosterone levels block oxytocin release, vasopressin takes over the bonding role in men. However, the two hormones differ in their action: during an orgasm, the oxytocin level rises abruptly, while vasopressin drops. Consequently, the man may no longer feel attached to his partner, and that\u2019s why some relationships break up pretty quickly after the first time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The above dynamics makes commitment even more important than it rightly seems. Studies have shown that men\u2019s testosterone levels decrease considerably after getting married. Therefore, oxytocin is no longer blocked and can do its normal job, making the husband grow attached to his wife. The wedding vows thus become the definitive act of commitment: the decision is the crucial element for men to build a stable relationship.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Still, the male brain doesn\u2019t necessarily need marriage to start producing oxytocin. The secretion of this hormone has also been noted in bachelors declaring their strong commitment to building a\u00a0mutual future with their partner and staying with her in good and bad times.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Chemistry in the Brain, Chemistry Between Partners<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

While hormones remain important, love also affects the very function of the brain. Let\u2019s see how the three components of love manifest themselves on the neural level.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Passion strongly activates the brain\u2019s reward system\u2014the cerebral regions connected with pleasure and dopamine. The structures related to obsessive thoughts also work intensely at that time. Consequently, people in love behave as if intoxicated: they feel happy to the verge of ecstasy and cannot stop thinking about their partner. Moreover, merely looking at the partner\u2019s photograph suppresses the activity of the brain region which controls critical thinking. No wonder adoration sets in, making the couple blind to each other\u2019s flaws.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Intimacy and commitment are hard to separate in terms of brain anatomy, so they can safely be analyzed together as a\u00a0state of remaining in a\u00a0long-term relationship. This was proved in a\u00a0study involving participants who declared that they were still deeply in love with their partner despite many years together. Their average relationship duration was 21 years, and the experiment consisted in checking the brain\u2019s response to the partner\u2019s photograph. It turned out that the joy of looking at the beloved one hadn\u2019t faded and the pleasure center in the brain was highly active, just like in the state of infatuation. However, people in long-term relationships also showed a\u00a0pronounced activity of the brain regions which account for parental love. Thus, it seems that the passing time makes care and concern for the partner the major components of the bond.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Three Years Later…<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

The above study becomes even more intriguing in conjunction with another one, where the researchers compared the brain pictures of couples at the beginning of their romantic relationship and three years later. The people who remained together after that time had shown a\u00a0reduced activity in certain brain structures already at the early stage of intense romantic love. Those included the region responsible for the representation of one\u2019s self in the mind. The finding is consistent with other reports, according to which the concept of self becomes blurred in love and gets blended with the partner\u2019s self. Furthermore, the more intense the phenomenon in question, the higher the chance that the relationship will last longer.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Maciej Kochanowski \/ Midjourney<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n
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