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Regret for Unsettled Issues<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Conscious passing usually affects the elderly or ailing. People who look at their death face different reactions. Not every dying person shares their thoughts \u2013 some people close themselves up, suffer in silence, or simply don\u2019t have the strength<\/strong>. But in those who confide before leaving, there are universal reflections.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Not reconciling with one\u2019s family in time, neglecting loved ones and unresolved matters are often recurring motifs in the confessions of the elderly whom I took care of<\/p>\n\u2013 says Marta, a nurse of one of the Polish Tri-City (Gda\u0144sk, Gdynia, Sopot) nursing homes.<\/cite><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

Every day, she deals with people who pass away. She points out that not everyone musters up to be sincere \u2013 many are too sick, including mentally. Moreover, the elderly staying in nursing homes are a specific, not entirely representative group \u2013 after all, they were usually put in the facility by relatives or social assistance. People who can pass away surrounded by family<\/a> tend to be less bitter.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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They talk about unfulfilled love from decades ago, about children who went abroad. They regret that they did not follow their hearts but calculated. They sometimes blame themselves, perhaps unjustly, for the fact that, for example, their son\u2019s departure<\/a> for England and the subsequent loosening of relations are their fault. They look for mistakes in their behavior. They regret not telling their loved ones how important they are to them<\/p>\n\u2013 the nurse says.<\/cite><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

As she adds \u2013 there are deep, serious matters mixed with trivia in their confessions \u2013 for example, an unreturned twenty-zloty debt, failure to keep one\u2019s word about meeting for coffee, a soiled dress, a lost book. Even if such, rather ordinary memories appear<\/strong> \u2013 about a friend who gossiped, a troublesome neighbor, or a snotty boss, then, surprisingly, they lead to reflection: \u201cMaybe she was right,\u201d \u201cI could have been wrong in her assessment,\u201d \u201cAfter years I understand her better.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Regret for Unfulfilled Dreams<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

The thoughts of older people at the very end of their lives became the subject of descriptions and analyzes. The problem has been noticed mainly in the countries of the so-called Western civilization, where religion or tradition plays an increasingly smaller role, and the culturally established patterns are disappearing. After all, even in Poland a few decades ago, during family conversations at the table, there was a theme \u201cDo you remember what your grandfather said before he died?\u201d (there may also be \u201cgrandmother,\u201d \u201cuncle,\u201d \u201caunt,\u201d \u201cfather,\u201d \u201cmother,\u201d \u201cthe neighbor\u201d and so on.). These were often valuable, memorable pieces of life advice.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Confessions of ailing seniors were managed to be collected and transcribed by Australian nurse Bronnie Ware. She has been taking care of people in the terminal phase for years, earned their trust, and was able to talk to them honestly in the last few weeks of their lives. The stories were posted in the blog Inspiration and Chai, which she later published in the form of a book entitled The Top Five Regrets of Dying<\/em>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We Are All More Alike Than We Think<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Ware noted that in the face of death, people became very similar to each other<\/strong> \u2013 regardless of their previous financial status, education, and religion. When they felt that they were going to leave soon, they began to appreciate things that were for the taking, but\u2026 they failed to achieve them. Their stories were based on similar patterns of reminiscing over certain events in their life. As if in the end they realized what matters most.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The dying patients most regretted the lack of courage in their lives.<\/strong> It was supposed to make them submit to the pressure of the environment and not properly take care of their own needs and desires. Almost every man regretted spending too much time on working and too little on being with his loved ones. The seniors explained that if they could turn back time, they would have organized their professional lives differently \u2013 not striving so hard to maximize financial gains. The vast majority of patients regretted not having the courage to express their feelings more fully. They hid their emotions, suppressing what was really inside them. They were not honest with themselves and therefore did not achieve full happiness.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Another recurring theme was the neglect of family and friends. Therefore, they have not managed to maintain good, close relations that positively affect the quality of life. The saddest point, however, is the last one \u2013 many of the dying have concluded that they have not lived a happy life<\/strong>. They could not fulfill their desires, fearing the opinion of others. The overwhelming anxiety made them accept compromises and mediocrity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We recommend:<\/strong> Divination, Astrology, Neo-Cults, and Islam: Christianity Is No Longer in Vogue<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Divination, Astrology, Neo-Cults, and Islam: Christianity Is No Longer in Vogue<\/a><\/blockquote>